How to foster a sense of belonging

One of the biggest reasons autistic children struggle with self-esteem is feeling like they don’t fit in. The confusion of trying to navigate a world that feels isolating can make life challenging, not just for the child but also for their parents and caregivers.

As a parent, the first step in supporting your child is acknowledging their feelings and experiences without judgment. Let them know it’s okay to feel this way. Simple affirmations like, ‘It’s okay to feel different; everyone does at times,’ can make a world of difference.

The next step is fostering a sense of belonging within your family. Adjusting traditions and creating inclusive routines can be powerful. For example, one Christmas, our son confidently renamed Santa as Farmer Christmas. Rather than correcting him, we embraced it—and now, Farmer Christmas is a cherished part of our celebrations, complete with his own storybook.

Lastly, seek out community groups or activities that celebrate neurodiversity. Finding spaces where your child feels they truly belong can have a lasting positive impact on their self-esteem.

Start by creating belonging at home—it could be the foundation of your child’s confidence.